Grief is natural. To mourn is normal. To cry is healthy. Grief is nature’s way of assisting us to cope with the loss we have experienced and to take the love and emotion that we had in the person we have lost and to reinvest it in those living around us.
The grief process takes time. Our lives have been disrupted and we are anxious over the lack of control that we have. Often our sorrow seems overwhelming and we may feel that we will never recover from it. Yet, the experience of countless generations testifies to the reality that eventually we will be able to work through our feelings and arrive at a state of acceptance.
The healing power lies within ourselves, within the very wound itself. So, to grieve is a very human, healthy and necessary response to loss. Grief is not tidy. It does not travel neatly along smooth straight roads but rather is akin to an emotional roller coaster ride of bumpy ups and downs. No two people grieve the same. Some are able to display feelings quite openly and freely while others check their emotions. Some may be able to articulate their grief and readily talk and share, while others express themselves in activity and work. Grief is also a time of turning inwards.
By necessity we must take the time necessary to understand our various feelings. We need to make sense of our changed reality. Although we would wish the deceased to come back we know that we must deal with this most ultimate of separations if life is to go on.
One of the most universal experiences in life is death and with that death the grief that accompanies it.
The British Columbia Funeral Association offers to individuals who need comfort and support a number of brochures on the topic of grief, such as:
- Understanding Grief, A New Beginning
- Helping Children Cope With Grief
- Helping Teenagers Cope With Grief
- Helping Yourself Heal When Someone Dies
- I Can’t Face The Holidays
- When Someone Close To You Has Completed Suicide
These complimentary brochures are available from any member funeral home, or directly from the British Columbia Funeral Association – 800-665-3899 or firstname.lastname@example.org.